MY APPROACH

Attunement is a foundational aspect of psychotherapy.

Insofar as it allows a therapeutic environment to emerge in which psychological development can resume. It refers to the therapist’s capacity to sense, hold, and respond to the client’s emotional and experiential state in a way that is sufficiently responsive without being intrusive. In this sense, attunement is not an intervention in itself, but a condition that makes therapeutic work possible.

From a Winnicottian perspective, the therapist’s attunement contributes to the creation of a facilitating environment—a relational field in which the client feels real, recognized, and emotionally held. This environment supports the emergence of the client’s spontaneous experience and protects against premature compliance or defensive adaptation. Without such attunement, the therapeutic relationship risks replicating earlier failures of environment, reinforcing false self functioning rather than enabling growth.

Attunement involves careful attention not only to what the client says, but to how experience is communicated—through affect, rhythm, bodily expression, silence, and shifts in emotional tone. The therapist’s responsiveness at this level signals reliability and emotional availability, allowing the client to risk dependence and regression where needed. This regression, when adequately held, creates the conditions for repair and integration.

Importantly, attunement in psychotherapy does not imply constant alignment or emotional matching. Development requires moments of misattunement, frustration, and disillusionment, provided these occur within a relationship that can survive them. The therapist’s capacity to remain present and intact in the face of the client’s anger, withdrawal, or disappointment is as crucial as moments of resonance. It is through this process of rupture and repair that the client gradually internalizes a more reliable sense of self and other.

In this way, attunement supports the individual's movement toward greater authenticity, emotional continuity, and the capacity to be alone in the presence of another. Therapeutic change arises not from attunement alone, but from the ongoing interplay between attunement, misattunement, and repair within a sufficiently good therapeutic environment.

Attunement, therefore, is best understood not as the primary mechanism of change, but as the ground upon which meaningful psychological development and transformation can occur.